Breaking Free of Old Patterns

You are great.

You’re successful, in a great relationship, well respected in your field. But…

You’re successful but constantly tired, burned out, and have no time for friends and family. You no longer have much passion for what you do, are afraid that you’re stuck in you’re current position because you’re too tired, too old, too afraid you can’t measure up against younger, technically savvy colleagues.

You’re in a great relationship except for the boredom that has set in. You have a loving marriage and a picture-perfect family, except the one kid who is a constant issue and worry because of his addiction. You’re new guy (latest in the every-few-years-new-guy) is great. He might be “the one”. Except he said that mean thing the other day and you suspect he doesn’t totally respect you. Maybe this is as good as it gets though. You’re so tired of starting over.

You’ve done well financially, except for that bad investment. Now you feel like you are trying to catch up. Worse, you’re afraid. You’re constantly worried about money and second-guessing your judgment.

Does any of this sound familiar? For most of us, one or more of these will sound familiar at some point, and for many of us, one or more of these is a pattern in our life.

The reasons for this vary, but it mostly boils down to our long-held beliefs, many of which we’ve never really consciously thought about.

The good news is that with the right tools we can break free of these beliefs and patterns, and live in peace. Even when others disappoint us, we can learn to accept what we can’t readily change, and we can change a lot more than might seem possible today.

I invite you to explore the possibilities with me. Message me if you’re ready to live your best life.

What Is Happiness

What does happiness mean to you? Happiness means different things to different people and maybe even different things at different times.

I’ve found that when most people talk about happiness, they relate it to some circumstance, event, material acquisition or behavior of another person. In other words, something external, and often uncontrollable.

What would it mean to be happy without regard for the facts and circumstances of your life? Hard to imagine? Maybe substituting another word like peaceful or joyful is more descriptive to that underlying state of awareness that we are exactly where we are supposed to be in this eternal now.

Maybe this sounds impossible to you. Everything is most certainly not ok. You’re sure I wouldn’t even suggest that this pervasive sense of well-being is possible if I just knew your particular issues, challenges, circumstances.

Here’s what I know. It is possible. And when living in this state of the mindful Now, the circumstances of our life also tend to flow more easily. It’s not that you’ll never have another challenge in your life, but you no longer need to experience the suffering.

I love Eckhart Tolle’s analogy of a lighted candle. When placed in the middle of a dark room, the candle is important and prominent in the room. However, if the curtains are thrown open to the sunny day outside, the candle is no longer important and is in fact barely noticeable. The flame hasn’t changed but it’s now engulfed in light. This is what happens to our problems when we reside in the eternal Now.

When we live in turmoil, it manifests in stress, unwanted physical conditions, poor relationships and more. How much difference would it make in your life to live in peace instead?

Life Sucks

I'm guessing that got your attention, either because you totally agree, or because you think I must be a poor example of a spiritual, mindful personal coach.

I don't really think life sucks, although there are moments where it's hard not to go there. Certain events, for example, like mass shootings, do indeed give me a hopeless, sad, angry feeling about the world. And sometimes circumstances closer to home evoke those same feelings.

But then I'm reminded that I'm ultimately responsible for what I attract into my life experience, and I see the possibilities for making both my inner and outer circumstances better. I have many tools at my disposal to facilitate moving beyond what's 'out there' to my inner knowing that I can attract what I want and need into my experience. I also acknowledge that the external world is but a fraction of what is real and true.

I love the example that Eckhart Tolle used when describing how we experience life's difficulties when we acknowledge our spiritual being-ness, and live in the present moment. He said that our negative experiences are like a lit candle placed in the middle of a room. If the room has all the shades pulled down, and is very dark, the lit candle is very prominent and important. However, if the shades are lifted and light is flooding into the room, the candle light all but disappears, being absorbed by the surrounding light in the room. The candle flame is the same. It has just lost its prominence.

This is what various tools, like EFT and mindfulness practices can do for us. They are the light that puts our troubles into perspective.Today I invite you to throw up the shades and let the light in so that your sorrows, stresses and concerns can fade into the background of a joyful life experience.

Cheryl

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