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I read a lovely essay the other day, written by a woman whose husband was dying of a terminal illness. At one point during a conversation with her husband, he tried to reassure her, saying "everything will be fine - actually, everything is fine." When she protested, he said, "you just have to change your perception of fine".

Now, that might sound like an invitation to ignore, sugar-coat, or put a happy face on a pretty awful situation. As I thought about that concept, however, I realized that he was absolutely correct. Everything in our experience is fine. We are all experiencing life in a way that is perfect for us. Of course, in our limited understanding, it is hard to agree that what we think of as really terrible life events are fine.

Whether we are personally experiencing some particularly difficult life situation, or witnessing the suffering of others, it can be hard to accept that in the great, infinite, perfect 'All-That-Is', everything is indeed precisely as it should be. Each experience and event is in fact the exact thread required to weave that particular swatch of the cosmic tapestry. We can have faith that our experiences are 'fine' precisely because that is what has unfolded in our experience.

When we look at our lives through the lens of eternity, we realize that each moment of each life experience is a part of a perfect expansion of an infinite universe. In the eternity of our individual soul, we are constantly growing, learning and expanding, and no experience is final. We are all contributing to the eternal perfection of the perfect One, of which we are all a part. From this perspective, we are all fine.


We have all experienced what we would call adversity at one time or another in our lives. Some of us have experienced one or more very traumatic events or circumstances that led to pain and suffering.

I too have experienced traumas both minor and severe throughout my life, and I'm now blessed to find the beauty in what has been born from these events and life situations, especially over the past several years.

Adversity led me to seek and find several different spiritual and energetic teachers and authors, through whom I have developed a deep understanding of living a life of surrender and acceptance of what is. This allows me to be at peace when challenging situations arise, especially when there is little I can physically do to change or influence the situation.

I'm certainly not "there" all of the time. Like everyone I have my days, but for the most part there is an acceptance and peace with whatever is happening outwardly. Also, in this mindfully present state, I am much more likely to think clearly about next steps, and to relinquish any attempt to control the uncontrollable, which can only lead to suffering.

I am eternally grateful that the long and often winding path of my life has brought me precisely to the place I am in now. I am enjoying this journey of growth and spiritual expansion. And I especially appreciate that I now have the ability to serve others through the understanding I've developed.

Wherever you are today in your life's journey, I wish for you the growth that comes from living all of life's adventures. And I wish you peace in the acceptance of what is.


If you've been exposed at all to self-help books, personal or professional development, or law of attraction or spiritual teachers of any kind, you've been exposed to the idea that you get what you expect, or maybe that you get what you focus on.

Many people object to this principle, protesting that they would never want or expect illness, financial difficulties, or other negative circumstances. While it is true that most of us would never consciously expect, desire or focus on attracting an unwanted circumstance, we often unconsciously attract those situations into our lives through our expectations.

The disconnect lies in our understanding of expectations. An expectation often has nothing to do with conscious anticipation. Instead our conscious and unconscious expectations are formed through our exposure to the thoughts, words, teachings and other programming we are subject to throughout our lives.

Our expectations come from our beliefs, many of which were formed in childhood, and as a result are so ingrained in us that we never even identify, let alone examine them in any meaningful way. For example, if we grew up in a household that believed in financial lack, that good health was a matter of luck or 'good genes', or that life is just a series of random events over which we have no control, we will often embrace these ideas. As a result, we form expectations of the same.

On the other hand, we can consciously and deliberately examine our beliefs and consciously decide to expect what we desire, rather than what we think is inevitable. Today, pick an area of your life and examine the patterns you have experienced. Then explore the beliefs you hold about that particular topic. Think back to the conversations you heard during your childhood and how they influenced your current belief system. When you have identified your set of beliefs, you can then question them and deliberately set a different expectation for your life.

This week, set an intention to purposely expect the best life has to offer.

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